Jochebed

  Have you ever heard of 'angry smile'? Well, I haven't and I doubt they're compatible. Times without number I've tried to hold both (anger and a smile) at the same time but one ends up extinguishing the other. Really, whenever I'm able to force a smile and humm tunes when I sense anger forming a knot inside, the anger dissipates. Same with other negative emotions. You doubt it? Why not experiment it? Well, while you are busy at it let me share more of what I found about smiling. They say it brightens your countenance, your day and your life; makes you look younger and  more attractive, causes an influx of positive emotions that reduce anxiety, relieve stress and even elevates the mood of those around you, helps you make friends easily and keep them.Then too, you can smile your way to happiness as it releases the feel-good hormones -- endorphins, dopamine and serotonin into your system. Really! Smiling is calming. So I put a handful of smile quotes together just...

 Photo credit @Google Many a time I've heard the expression:'there's love in the air'. Well,I've been searching for it in the oxygen around my area but can't seem to find it. Could it be it's really not in the air but in actions? Could it be that one they say is rare to find and hardwork to sustain? Well if it is, let me tell you the bits and pieces I know about it from observation and firsthand experience.  It isn't that one at first sight; it isn't that one you meet someone and the next minute, day, week, month or months and you're already taking off your clothes, touching and entering places prematurely. It is building the relationship on sand because the focus is on pleasure rather than on their strengths, skills,values and motivations that can sustain a lasting union or weaknesses you can both work on.Afterall, when shopping for materials to build your house aren't there qualities you look out for in them? So at the early stage rather th...

      Photo credit @Google  Before you build a castle in your heart for someone, be sure you have even a standing space in theirs. You know why? Please read along. Building relationships, be they romantic or platonic, take time, effort, emotions and whatever else you know of from experience. And like your two palms during handwashing, both parties involved ought to invest equal amounts of interest, hardwork and whatever other virtue there is, with the goal of seeing to the success of the partnership or union. By right, everyone deserves to receive the exact same quantity and quality of whatever good they're selflessly giving out. Yes, it's a God-given right to enjoy the fruit of our labours. I do not for once think anyone born of a woman is so important that they just fold their hands and stay at the receiving end of affection, kindness and happifying gestures without putting in even an ounce of effort to reciprocate. That's an odour oozing out of selfishness that no...

When someone comes and tells you, "I can't sleep without you, I love you the  way you are and I can put up with your good and bad attitude", before you commit your heart to such a person, please, * GIVE IT TIME * . When You just met someone today and feel like marrying him/her tomorrow, before you do, remember you need to * GIVE IT TIME * . When you visit your uncle during a vacation for 2 months, don't be carried away that they serve you your preferred food and give you hot water to bath during your first two days don't start making arrangements to relocate to their house, *GIVE IT TIME When you enter a new environment and everybody worships you and eat your mess don't be carried away just * GIVE IT TIME * . When someone comes with a new business with unbelievable promises, please before you involve your money, first * GIVE IT TIME * Finally, when you are in a cross road of decisions, you don't know what to do, ask the people or person involved to p...

Do you have to break hearts, inflict emotional wounds to achieve your own happiness? Does any such happiness ever last? No! It is always short-lived .You know why? Well, someday, when the novelty of getting what you so desperately want at all cost  has worn off, when you have tasted it in and out and that initial excitement and satisfaction wears out, you will be left with nothing but emptiness and regrets in your quiet moments. Then you will begin to look for subtle ways to make amends, to get forgiveness only to realize too late that like broken eggs some broken hearts never mend, and that no thanks to human imperfection an apology may not pacify a sore heart as much as sorry is not an eraser... But what if by one means or another you survive your pangs of conscience,  pause and think of the casualties on your trail: will they recover? Will their lives be the same ever again? Will trusting and loving others naturally ever be business as usual for them again? Should the tears...

Woke up bright-eyed n bushy-tailed,beaming with smiles from the depth of a heart filled with gratitude for life and divine patience.... Woke up with positive vibes because I slept cool and dreamt of calm rivers and peaceful sunsets....there are troubles and there'll always be; there are good times, and there'll always be;there are friends and foes and there'll always be, AND this day I choose to focus on that bright side of life that keeps me fly and afloat.... When the bad days come deal with them with the strength He supplies,  BUT when the good days come ,smile through each second and savor each minute because no one knows tomorrow..... There is always at least ONE reason to smile each day... Good morning all.... Jochebed