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The Golden Rule

Do you have to break hearts, inflict emotional wounds to achieve your own happiness? Does any such happiness ever last? No! It is always short-lived .You know why?

Well, someday, when the novelty of getting what you so desperately want at all cost  has worn off, when you have tasted it in and out and that initial excitement and satisfaction wears out, you will be left with nothing but emptiness and regrets in your quiet moments. Then you will begin to look for subtle ways to make amends, to get forgiveness only to realize too late that like broken eggs some broken hearts never mend, and that no thanks to human imperfection an apology may not pacify a sore heart as much as sorry is not an eraser...

But what if by one means or another you survive your pangs of conscience,  pause and think of the casualties on your trail: will they recover? Will their lives be the same ever again? Will trusting and loving others naturally ever be business as usual for them again? Should the tears of others be the building blocks of your own success? Is your happiness and comforts really worth that much? Is this brief existence of ours really worth all that win-lose approach?  

So this day I ask you to sit calmly and ask yourself :This glee that is about to fill my heart, this smile that is about to brighten my countenance,  is it coming at the expense of someone else's happiness and peace of mind? Will it last? Several years down the line, will I be proud of myself ? If not, then use the #CAPENTER'S RULE: Measure twice, cut once! Yes,weigh your decisions over and over again to ensure their dividends aren't going to be raked in at the expense of another's joy and peace of mind, then cut once, go ahead, see them through...

Then in the years to come you will look back on your life with satisfaction,  with peace at knowing there are no casualties on your trail; that you cared about the happiness  of others as much as you care about yours. Yes, the peace of mind that results from that is what we all deserve , and that I wish you find, dear one,  today, tomorrow  and even forever...

I could be wrong. So your constructive criticisms are welcome...I value your presence and contributions so very much as I wish you the very best that life can offer...

Jochebed 

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