Jochebed

  "Excuses are the tools of the incompetent, used to build bridges to nowhere and monuments of nothingness." Those words by Obama sank deep down and hit a raw nerve. Truth be told, excuses are sweet and easy; they come in handy whenever we need to pacify our conscience when it starts to beat us for not doing the best we could to help a situation. E.g I have failed in life because so and so didn't give all the help I needed; I am depressed because those who should, have failed to encourage and motivate me; how I turned out is no thanks to my poor/toxic upbringing; I am this because the government is that; the list, really, is inexhaustible.  And one terribly unfortunate thing about a bag of excuses is that it is so light and easy to carry, which is why a good many of us effortlessly  take it with us wherever we go so much so that at any point in our lives when things fail  to go as planned or expected, there is a ready-made excuse. Yes, the blame could be on anyone or...

  Have you ever heard of 'angry smile'? Well, I haven't and I doubt they're compatible. Times without number I've tried to hold both (anger and a smile) at the same time but one ends up extinguishing the other. Really, whenever I'm able to force a smile and humm tunes when I sense anger forming a knot inside, the anger dissipates. Same with other negative emotions. You doubt it? Why not experiment it? Well, while you are busy at it let me share more of what I found about smiling. They say it brightens your countenance, your day and your life; makes you look younger and  more attractive, causes an influx of positive emotions that reduce anxiety, relieve stress and even elevates the mood of those around you, helps you make friends easily and keep them.Then too, you can smile your way to happiness as it releases the feel-good hormones -- endorphins, dopamine and serotonin into your system. Really! Smiling is calming. So I put a handful of smile quotes together just...

 Photo credit @Google Many a time I've heard the expression:'there's love in the air'. Well,I've been searching for it in the oxygen around my area but can't seem to find it. Could it be it's really not in the air but in actions? Could it be that one they say is rare to find and hardwork to sustain? Well if it is, let me tell you the bits and pieces I know about it from observation and firsthand experience.  It isn't that one at first sight; it isn't that one you meet someone and the next minute, day, week, month or months and you're already taking off your clothes, touching and entering places prematurely. It is building the relationship on sand because the focus is on pleasure rather than on their strengths, skills,values and motivations that can sustain a lasting union or weaknesses you can both work on.Afterall, when shopping for materials to build your house aren't there qualities you look out for in them? So at the early stage rather th...